35 ways to make lasting friends

Here is a list of 35 ways of creating and cultivating lasting friendships.

1.Know yourself. In order to make friends, we need to know who we are. You may want to check out this article and work out what is special about you. If you are not clear on what your life purpose is, these questions will help you.

2. Check whether you really want to have friends. If you’re secretly afraid of people, or don’t trust other, you will find it difficult to make friends.

3. Spend time around people. You can’t find friends in the cupboard.

4. Be kind. Look at what you can do for other to make their life easier.

5. Be steady and dependable. Be a friend one can count on.

6. Be genuine. Don’t try and be someone you’re not. Friendship is built on honesty.

7. Join groups and pursue activities that you enjoy. You are more likely to find friends who have common interests.

8. When travelling, talk to everyone you meet. This advice was given to me by my son Sebastian and I’ve made wonderful friendships following it.

9. Become a volunteer. You’ll find people who have a similar set of values which is a great basis for a friendship.

10. Talk to people. You’ll spend a lot of time in groups without making friends if you don’t talk with people.

11. Make eye contact and smile when you communicate people.

12. Be positive. If you only talk negatively about yourself, others, or life in general, people will not enjoy your company.

13. Remember names. If you find that difficult, ask the person again until you’ve really got it.

14. Initiate a get-together. If you meet someone you like, ask them out for a coffee or arrange another meeting. An easy way to do that is to say something like: A good way to extend yourself is to say: "Well, I’ve got to go, but if you ever want to talk over lunch or coffee or anything like that, let me give you my number/e-mail address."

15. Find common interests. Ask how he or she pursues their interest. Are they a member of a club or society? Express an interest in joining.

16. Tell your friend that you enjoy their company. Many friendships are lost because neither person finds the courage to express their interest.

17. Beware of sexual flings with friend. Many friendships don’t survive it.

18. Be glad for your friends successes. Be the only person they can tell how well they’re doing.

19. Don’t compromise your values. Keep you standards of morality and behaviour and don’t change them just to fit in with friend or a group.

20. Don’t gossip. If a new friend hears you revealing personal stories of others, he or she will be wary of your discretion.

21. Ask the other person open-ended questions about their life. Open-ended questions are ones that can’t be answered by saying ‘yes’, or ‘no’.

22. Share more deeply with a friend. Let them know what your life feels like. This is key difference between a friend and an acquaintance.

23. Keep the sharing equal. Don’t hog the time with your problems.

24. Have even roles in the relationship. If you notice that you are always the listener and she the star.

25. Switch roles regularly in your friendships. If there is one who always calls the shots, the friendship won’t last.

26. Listen to your friend. Listening is the number one glue of friendships.

27. Keep confidences. Nothing kills a budding friendship faster than spilled secrets.

28. Allow your friend to help you. Give and take has to be balanced in a friendship.

29. Share the bad times. Help your friend when things go bad. Allow your friends to help you when times are difficult.

30. Keep contact. Check in regularly with your friend. A short text message, email or phone call keeps a friendship alive.

31. Don’t crowd your friend. Make sure you don’t overwhelm — or even stalk — him or her.

32. Share bonding activities. Have some adventures together and play together. To foster long-lasting friendships, create common memories.

33. Keep talking through difficult times. Don’t let disagreements fester.

34. If there is a rift, apologize for the hurt you caused. It’s more important to keep your friendship going than to be ‘right’.

35. If a friendship is damaging your life or your family relationships, you may need to let it go. This can be a difficult decision. Weigh up how important this friendship is for you against the disturbance it brings into your life.

Source/Courtesy: posted by Mary Jaksch on ibnlive

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1 Comments

  1. swarna

    good ones.. but too idealistic arent they…like a ‘Good Day’ fwd we get wen totally frustrated with work!

    PS: i jus wrote another post after a long long time … :)

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